If you are a woman with a man who has premature ejaculation youíre probably
looking for a cure, since itís almost certain he wonít be bothered.
That might be a bit unfair, because Iím sure that a lot of men with premature
ejaculation are actually very nice guys who are really unhappy about the lack
of satisfaction that their partners feel during intercourse.
However the simple truth is that comparatively few guys who have a rapid
ejaculation problem will seek treatment for it, and this can lead to
considerable discomfort, both emotional and physical, within the partnership.
After all, the one thing premature ejaculation suggests is that a man doesnít
care about his partner sufficiently to find a cure for the problem and
overcome it. For another, the woman may interpret his rapid ejaculation as an
ďabandonmentĒ, since premature ejaculation tends to bring sex to an abrupt
end, often when the couple are in the middle of intercourse, with the woman
still feeling emotionally connected to her partner.
However you regard it, therefore, premature ejaculation is an unfavorable
sexual dysfunction to have within a relationship, and itís to everybodyís
advantage that a suitable treatment program should be found.
Iím glad to say that my sex therapist colleague Lloyd Lester has developed an
extremely successful treatment for premature ejaculation, which I recommend
highly. This treatment is based upon the principles of sex therapy, as used in
a one-to-one clinical setting by sex therapists with their clients.
It takes several treatment approaches and blends them into a single effective
and powerful strategy of overcoming premature ejaculation. The main components
of this treatment program are:
1 Behavioral modification techniques to ensure the man has a behavioural
repertoire that gives him the greatest chance of overcoming premature
2 Cognitive modification techniques using techniques such as NLP and self
hypnosis to ensure that the man has sex with the maximum chance of overcoming
any tendency whatsoever to ejaculate quickly.
3 Physiological techniques that allow the man to exercise greater control over
his own arousal, including, for example, the use of the pubococcygeal muscle
to control the rate at which his arousal increases, and to slowdown his
approach to the point of ejaculatory inevitability. In this context, itís
worth mentioning that although many so-called authorities on the Internet have
recommended squeezing the PC muscle as the man approaches the point of no
return, regarding this perhaps as an effective strategy to control the
premature ejaculation, the truth is Ė itís a completely ineffectual way of
controlling ejaculation, and simply doesnít work.
The only way to use the PC muscle to control rapid ejaculation is to squeeze
it gently in the run-up to the point of no return, and by doing this, a man
will find his arousal diminishes, his erection softens, and the degree of
excitement heís feeling significantly lessens.
All of this information can be found in an excellent treatment program written
by my colleague Lloyd Lester, which explains information here ó itís calledEjaculation
by Commandó and it really
works well for men who arenít fully aware of their level of arousal during
intercourse, or who find that the speed at which they approach ejaculation
seems uncontrollable, and far too rapid.
Premature ejaculation can certainly be a real handicap between man and woman
in a relationship. It is only by seeking a cure, and sticking rigidly to the
treatment protocols that a man is likely to stand any chance whatsoever of
overcoming premature ejaculation; it when he does so, the rewards are far
greater than you might expect, simply because sex is made so much more
relaxed, and so much more enjoyable for both partners.
The outcome of
treatment for premature ejaculation is usually extremely successful when the
man and his partner both combine to take part in the treatment, and work as a
team to ensure that man has the maximum chance of overcoming his sexual
Let me assure you that in all the treatment programs available on the
Internet, I have never found such reliable and good information as is
available in the one to which I have linked above. Lloyd Lester is an
extremely experienced sex therapist, who I know personally, and with whom I
have worked on many projects over the years.
Heís a researcher who has taken a great deal of trouble to investigate all of
the currently recommended treatment programs for premature ejaculation, and
has clearly identified the ones that work, combining them into a single
holistic strategy that offers great hope for sexual pleasure for all men and
By examining the contents of his treatment program, Ejaculation by Command,
you should be able to establish fairly rapidly which parts of it are
suitable for you and your partner, and thereby you will be able to establish
treatment protocol for yourselves which is ideally suited to your particular
experience of premature ejaculation.
The author of programs available 24/7 to offer support and advice to all
customers who have purchased this product; this is particularly valuable
benefit for you, and should allow you to gain maximum advantage from the
What I would say is that in the context of any treatment sexual dysfunction,
itís essential to ensure that you have adequate support, so do not attempt to
solve the problem without the support of your partner, which is an essential
prerequisite for all men who may find themselves seeking help for dysfunction.
Without the support of your partner, itís unlikely that the treatment program
will succeed, because the exercises which you engage in to ensure that youíre
not going to ejaculate before your level of arousal is as high as it can
possibly be, will be impossible to practice without her help.
in general, treatment for premature ejaculation is highly successful, and itís
surprising how few men actually seek help ó apparently the average time for a
man who has this dysfunction to seek help is six years, which is a truly
shocking statistic, but perhaps understandable in view of the embarrassment
and shame which it engenders.