Sex In Human Loving!
Delayed ejaculation is a common male condition in which the man can't ejaculate during sex, caused by a variety of factors including both physical and emotional antecedents.
It's a problem for men because it means they can't achieve sexual satisfaction through the normal release of orgasm during intercourse, possibly leaving them with a state of sexual arousal which is unrelieved, a state sometimes known as "blue balls".
For the couple it represents difficulty because women often assume that the reason men can't ejaculate is that they doesn't find them attractive or are not turned on by them.
Most men with delayed ejaculation deny this fervently, saying that they are aroused, and that their extended sexual performances and hard erections demonstrates this very clearly.
There is, however, a body of opinion which suggests that the state of arousal a man appears to have when he suffers from delayed ejaculation is in fact an illusion, and that sexually in his mind he's not really aroused at all.
Video on Delayed Ejaculation
It's a controversial viewpoint, although they does seem to be a certain amount of evidence to suggest that it's true, and most men will be able to relate from their own experience the fact that it's possible to have an erection without being particularly turned on – the morning erection which men know very well indeed a clear example of this.
There is also an amusing video on YouTube which demonstrates how many erections men get a day, and this clearly suggests that men can't be turned on sexually every time an erection happens.
Needless to say if a couple wish to have children
it's an even bigger problem, because fertility is reduced, or rather, the
possibility fertilization is diminished significantly.
National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior was conducted over
several years by the School of health, physical education, and recreation
at Indiana University.
This study is very important in assessing human sexual behavior, because it involved almost 6,000 adolescents and adults between the ages of 14 to 94, and investigated their involvement in over 40 different sexual acts, their use of condoms, and the number of people who enjoy same sex encounters.
To start with an interesting conclusion is that condom use only protects 1 in 4 acts of vaginal intercourse (although that's among couples who know each other, among singles, it's only 1 in 3). This seems low, and one recommendation that came out of the study was that the use of condoms should be promoted as sexual health priority.
One of the main conclusions the fact that there is enormous variability in sexual behavior of adults in the United States, and so by extrapolation anywhere else in the Western world.
Of course vaginal intercourse is still the most common sexual behavior, but there are many other varieties of sexual interaction enjoyed by people including masturbation with partners, and oral sex.
Something that's going to be of great interest to the moralists is the investigation of adolescent sexual behavior. It turns out the adolescents are much less sexually active than we are led to believe by the doom and gloom merchants in the media.
To start with, as previously mentioned, sexual behavior of US adults is very variable. The survey found more than 40 combinations of sexual activity in couples' most recent sexual interactions.
You can certainly see a great deal about the changing standards and expectations of sexual behavior in America from reading this report.
For example, 88% of men between the ages of 30 and 39 have pleasured a woman with oral sex – and 20% of boys aged between 16 and 17 claim to have done so.
More than 50% of all women said that they had been pleasured in this way by a man in the previous year, while 23% between the ages of 16 and 17 said they had been pleasured in this way.
Masturbation has become commonplace: among men aged between 14 and 24 years of age, as well as those over 50 years, masturbation is the most common sexual practice.
That seems to indicate something about women's expectation or expression of their sexuality after 50.
However, women between the ages of 18 and 49 were very enthusiastic about masturbation, with over half of them saying that masturbated in the previous three months, even when they were in relationship.
Nearly a quarter of women in the survey said they had engaged in mutual masturbation the man in the previous 30 days.
Anal Sex & Same Sex Activity
interesting finding concerns anal sex. In 1988, only 12% of women in
And whatever you think of same-sex activity, it's certainly very common.
Almost 15% of women in their 30s have pleasured another woman at least once in their lifetime with oral sex. About 13% of men over the age of 48 had sex with another man, arund half of those events involving oral sex.
Naturally, as we've been led to expect from our own experience, men are very likely to achieve orgasm during intercourse with a woman, while women said that this was likely to happen only if their partner was prepared to engage in other sexual practices besides intercourse.
Numbers of Sexual Partners & Sexual Dysfunctions
Other interesting findings include the fact that American men report more sexual partners than women – undoubtedly because men want to exaggerate their sexual prowess, at least in their own minds.
When you give women the opportunity to record the number of sexual partners that they have had in private, where nobody can see what they're writing, it turns out that the number of sexual partners claimed by each gender is approximately equal.
And interestingly, around a fifth of all Americans over the age of 18 seem to have had no sexual partners in the 12 months before the study was conducted.
In total, adult men and women said that have an average of about 7 sexual partners since the age of 18, although the numbers claimed by men and women were ridiculously different: 12.3 and 3.3 on average in a lifetime respectively.
As I said, when you give people the opportunity to report these numbers in private and in confidential circumstances, men and women's reportage of their sexual partners is almost exactly the same at around 9 for each gender.
However that disguises a definite difference in age profiles, for among those older than 70, the number is around 3.5 on average.
Now here's a fascinating thing: around the third of men said that they had premature ejaculation.
Of course what constitutes "premature" in a man's mind might not be the same scientific definition (broadly speaking, that is coming within two minutes of penetration).
So there is still some doubt around this, but even if it's a third of men who come quickly, that's a significant number, and must have a major effect on women's pleasure. The number of men experiencing delayed ejaculation is around 8%.